some advice please

my ex gf n i have just broke up (we where a lesbian couple), my ex has a son who is 6, i have been in his life for 2 n a half years.... He calls me mum thinks of me as another mum n everything we do everything 2gether his school knew me as his other mum.. Well the thing is me n my ex broke up a week ago, they left today 2 move interstate n she toke my little guy... She has said i can still talk 2 him, he can come here n see me n everything but i just wanted 2 know is it a good thing 2 ring him everyday or not? Me n my ex spoke bout him n everything i told her wat i want when it comes 2 our son... I really want 2 work on a gr8 friendship with my ex n see where it goes from there, what do u all think? Mr 6 luvs my family he calls my mum grandma n luvs seeing my nephew n everything its been real hard on me the last few days how can i overcome all this hurt n pain?

Hi mally, I am certainly no expert on relationships and usually have trouble holding one together for more than a few years. But, that being said I can offer my advice and hopefully it may help. I understand how this is a gut-wrenching thing for you as you are losing two people that you love dearly. I think that you should give them a bit of time to get settled before phoning and then certainly not everyday. It's good that your little guy can visit you and I noticed that you called him 'our son' so you are obviously very attached. Ask Mr6 to write you letters or draw pictures about his new school, home, etc. Then you could call to talk about his letters or pictures and talk to your ex and maybe discuss plans for Christmas or whatever. I hope this helps as it the best I can do mally

hi mally,
its early days yet for your situation and very painful. kids are very resilient and adapt to change better than us grown ups. only time will tell how things will turn out, especially when either of you re enter the dating scene, having said that I think its important to maintain contact with the litle man so you can reassure hi he is loved and the separation is not his fault.
best of luck for the future and much happiness

hey Mally how is everything going for you? I can't put it better than the other guys. Hope it all pans out for you all.